Isn’t it amazing how sometimes when you read a book which you enjoy immensely, it stays with you, and ‘haunts’ your thoughts in a lovely way, thinking about and feeling part of the story for ages after, but that is the power of a great storyteller, and a theme about fertility problems which presses your buttons.
I have experienced that sensation lately, with a story about a couple who had been married for several years, had undergone the usual tests and nothing was found amiss with either of them, but falling pregnant was denied them, owing to their own fertility problems
As a child the woman had experienced a bad upbringing with a mother who had sent her out on the streets as a little girl to buy her drugs, and had subsequently died – but the woman was not keen to adopt, as not knowing who her father was, she hungered after a blood relative.
A Friend Overcoming Her Fertility Problems.
In the meantime their friends who had their own fertility problems had adopted a baby, and were so unbelievably happy for 3 months with this precious bundle, but then the unimaginable happened, the parents of the child claimed it back as they were marrying, making this woman more determined than ever not to adopt.
As the months went on and her unexplained fertility hadn’t changed, she heard through a friend about a 14 year old who was pregnant, (who obviously had NO fertility problems) had had a similar upbringing to herself, and was just so angry at everyone and everything, because her heart needed to hear that someone loved her for who she was.
She belatedly moves into the apartment with this couple, with the proviso that when she delivered the baby they would keep it, (she had made it clear that she had no means of support, and wasn’t about to claim it as had happened to their friends), and she would just go on to her ‘no life’ as before.
As the months progress and the women both attended clinics, scans etc, the older woman had trouble getting close to this teenager, so there was always this invisible wall between them.
On night after the girl hears a conversation through the bedroom door of the couple, which was not complimentary to her, she packs up her things, gets her meagre savings together, (some of the money which she had previously stolen) and takes off to sleep in a boat moored in the harbor, belonging to a friend, (which they had previously experienced a wonderful day out in.
Tragically, while she was walking along the docks in the dead of night, she was mugged and finished up in hospital.
Life resumed back to how it was in the apartment, with the bruises healing, but not her battered heart, as the woman only seemed to concentrate on the forthcoming baby, making the young girl feel that all she was, was a vehicle to produce their baby, and she could soon leave.
However a few weeks before her due date she suffers acute pain in the stomach, feeling guilty, and blaming it onto the fact that the two women had just had a blow up and she had ranted about wishing the baby wasn’t there, and how she hated it.
It soon became obvious that she was in labor with water escaping, so off they hurry into the hospital, but when she revealed that the baby hadn’t moved for 2 days, and they could see the color of the leaking water, all hopes were dashed, knowing that the little one was dead.
A caesarian was performed immediately and this beautifully formed but lifeless little baby girl was brought into the world.
She was wrapped up, named and they all spent time with her, before handing her over to the undertakers.
A fulfilling way to overcoming her fertility problems
It was at this momentous point in time that the woman who had gone through so much with this troubled teen realized just how much she had come to love her, just for herself, and didn’t want to part with her.
In time they adopt her for their own, and have the child that they had longed for despite their fertility problems.
The book finished up with 3 years having passed, – the family excitedly looking through the new house they had just bought, the now 17yr old girl surveying her own bedroom, plus the joy of 2 year old twins running through the home with her, (who also had been adopted).
The last word is left to the Mother of these 3 fortunate children, “This wasn’t how the story was supposed to be, …… so we just had to write another story”.
In closing, this is just a novel, but I would suspect this story has taken place in many homes where fertility problems and solutions seem very hard to overcome, around this vast world, and will continue to do so. There are so many facets in fertility problems in men, fertility problems after miscarriage, or even fertility problems after first child.
Maybe adoption can be an answer for you as it was for us many years ago when we adopted a 3 month old boy, who now is a father long since himself. Perhaps you have had to write a different story to the one you dreamed of from a little girl, which can make life quite interesting at times, and as with bringing up any child there are highs and lows, but in the end it is all worth it.
Also you should download one of these excellent books which will have lots of hints and tips on ancient pregnancy cures, which you can find on these pages, which heaps of women have already and maybe give you the answers to why your body acts in the way it does, and you will thank me for it later.!!!!
Bless you in your endeavors, and may your baby be a reality when you overcome your fertility problems!!